Are you ready to face your giants?

Hey hey! Thanks for visiting me here at Face Your Giants! That tells me you're at least a little bit interested in breaking free from those generational cycles that hold you back day after day. I'm proud of you for at least recognizing that there might be a problem!

The biggest challenge facing you, really, is admitting that something's not right. You know you scream too much at your kids, or you discipline them a bit too much and too hard. Or you drink a little more than you mean to, and smoke certain things and can't seem to stop. Just admit there's a problem! Anything can be dealt with from there. But first you have to recognize the need for change.

Most people caught up in generational cycles tend to stay there because it's all they know, and they think it's too hard to break the loop. Let me tell you something, it's not easier. It's harder to watch the tears roll down my son's cheek because I broke his heart. Again. It's harder to watch your husband look broken because you degraded him out of anger. Again. It's harder to watch life passing you by as you reach 21, 25, or 30 not having done anything with your life because you were too miserable to try anything new, and you had no support because you pushed everyone away. I promise you, those things are harder than breaking free from generational cycles.

If you want to be a better person, sometimes you have to admit that you're NOT a great person now. But, that's ok. We're not worried about where you have been, we only care about where you're going. It doesn't matter where you are right now. As long as you have breath in your body, you can absolutely turn your life around. Does that mean everyone is going to forgive you for the awful things you said or did? Maybe if we lived in a perfect world, but we don't. So, no, probably not everyone will forgive you for what you put them through. But you know what? If you truly are sorry and ask for forgiveness, if they refuse, that's on them at that point. You did what you were supposed to do, and you are free to move on. You don't have to keep trying to make up for the things you did, you don't have to keep begging for forgiveness, you don't have to keep paying that price. Will you feel bad anyway? Yep. Will you beg for forgiveness more than once? Probably. Will you feel like you owe people something to make up for what you did or how you acted? Most likely. We're human and we make mistakes. We typically don't like for people to be angry at us. But, this is going to be tough to hear, we all have to face the consequences of our decisions. That may mean incarceration, that may mean strained relationships, that may mean broken families, that may mean hurt feelings and cold shoulders. However, if you turn your life around and break free from whatever cycle you're in, you are going to feel the weight lift off your shoulders. You're going to find that it's ok to seek happiness and peace. You need to know that joy doesn't come from those around you. It is within. You just have to find it.

I hope you follow my blog, because we have a lot of great resources and ideas we're going to share about breaking cycles. Trust me, I know all about cycles. I was in one for over 30 years. Don't be me! Take back control of your life now. Those 30 years made for the most miserable and depressing life ever. I had no purpose, I had no direction, I had no joy. None. I had two children I had to learn to love because I had no one that showed me what pure, clean, real love was. I broke the generational cycle of abuse for my children. But more on that another time. Just know that I've been down in the trenches with you. I found my way out. Let me help you find yours.

Until next time,

Tracy